April 14, 2014 Leave a comment
Generally when we hit a snag, or a problem, or just hit one of those points when we want to pick up our laptop and toss it out the window, we go into one of two modes, we decide to push harder, do more, or we resist. We fly into reactive mode either way.
In one case we do the proverbial chicken with its head cut off dance, flying in a myriad directions in order to make ourselves at least feel like we’re accomplishing something. Here we generally find ourselves hurriedly multitasking, giving ourselves a sense of accomplishment where in fact, that’s all it is, a sense of accomplishment.
The other mode is resistance. It’s too much. We’ll never get it done. There’s no way we’ll even come close to accomplishing our goals. The nay sayers are right. Better yet, we move to the head of the nay sayer class. In this case we don’t speed from task to task trying to make more calls, send more emails, do more marketing, send out more press releases, or devise more sure-fire ideas, we sit and stew and curse the world. We’d throw the computer against the wall, but what the hell would be the point? So we sit fuming, incensed, enraged and infuriated at the fact we were brought into this wretched life, as we contemplate the reasons why whatever we try is sure to fail.
Action is one polar reaction and resistance is the other. But action for its own sake is generally mindless action and resistance, at least in these situations, is generally a form of denial.
There is another reaction that we could choose. It’s not as easy nor is it as knee jerk as the first two. It takes some discipline
The reaction is to allow.
Yep, not to force, or push, or pull, or charge forward or retreat, but simply to allow.
It can be the most difficult approach, because the other two give us the illusion of taking control of the situation. We are either charging forward or we are heading backward. In either case, we are doing something. We are doing, which must mean we are controlling.
By allowing, I don’t mean just sitting and waiting for the proverbial knight in the white steed to ride up and solve all your life problems. Yes, you need to do your work, set up your marketing, launch your PR campaign, and cover the basics. What I mean by allowing is doing your work and then letting go.
Allowing life to happen.
It can be scary, because you shift from doing to being.
But also by stopping the frenetic action or the all-consuming resistance, you create some space, you make some room.
By taking a step back and simply allowing, you’re now positioned to receive.
Worth a try.
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